Quote of the week

When you have a messed up concept you will end up in messed up relationships. When you value yourself, you will not let others devalue you.

                                                                                    - Jeffrey A. Johnson

Relationships

Are you unhappy in your relationship? Do you find yourself making excuses for your partner even though you genuinely feel like something is not right?

It is time to reconsider the relationship.... yes yes yes I know nobody is perfect and two people from two different backgrounds coming together will definitely have differences. We all have faults but some things you just cannot compromise on. If you cannot deal with it now you most likely will never be able to deal with it. 

Myself, and I am sure many other people have found ourselves in situations where we make excuses for our partners like " he hit me because I made him upset"..... or " she misses my calls because she is always sleeping" or some other ridiculous reasons we find ourselves making up... let me tell you something, we do have intuitions and when you deeply feel like something is not right more than likely it is not. I am not talking about insecurities where you use your past relationships to judge the person whom you are currently with. 

I read a nice analogy that caught my attention...." dogs eat things that they should not ingest, and it makes them sick, then they mope around, roll around and act all sad and crazy because they are sick and finally they are able to vomit it all out. However, after a little while of feeling better they forget about what made them sick and go back to their own vomit to ingest the same thing that got them sick in the first place" and of course you know what will happen all over again.... hmmmm I know... I know... long analogy but here is my point......

This is the same way we have issues in our relationships that we know is not right for us or belittles us and we still decide to overlook , forget about it for the moment and keep making excuses, but truth be told it will remain the same especially if the other party is not trying to do their part, therefore we keep getting back in the same situation. This then becomes a continuous cycle of ups and downs, sadness and seemingly happiness. Why put yourself through all of this headache and heartache when you know that you truly deserve to be happy in the right relationship...

Keep in mind that the longer you are with Mr/Mrs wrong the longer you are putting a barrier on the door to letting Mr/Mrs Right in. As long as you remain entangled in the bad/wrong relationship, the longer it will take for you to get in the right one. The sooner you disentangle yourself from that relationship the sooner you can meet the right person and be genuinely happy in your relationship.

So what do you do in the meantime after liberating yourself from bondage and living the single life? 

Just work on yourself  to be a better person, love God, love yourself and enjoy life with great expectations. Be strong people! Until next time...