HEALTH/LIFESTYLE/RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS

Are you unhappy in your relationship? Do you find yourself making excuses for your partner even though you genuinely feel like something is not right? 

It is time to reconsider the relationship.... yes yes yes I know nobody is perfect and two people from two different backgrounds coming together will definitely have differences. We all have faults but some things you just cannot compromise on. If you cannot deal with it now you most likely will never be able to deal with it. 

Myself, and I am sure many other people have found ourselves in situations where we make excuses for our partners like " he hit me because I made him upset"..... or " she misses my calls because she is always sleeping" or some other ridiculous reasons we find ourselves making up... let me tell you something, we do have intuitions and when you deeply feel like something is not right more than likely it is not. I am not talking about insecurities where you use your past relationships to judge the person whom you are currently with. 

I read a nice analogy that caught my attention...." dogs eat things that they should not ingest, and it makes them sick, then they mope around, roll around and act all sad and crazy because they are sick and finally they are able to vomit it all out. However, after a little while of feeling better they forget about what made them sick and go back to their own vomit to ingest the same thing that got them sick in the first place" and of course you know what will happen all over again.... hmmmm I know... I know... long analogy but here is my point......

This is the same way we have issues in our relationships that we know is not right for us or belittles us and we still decide to overlook , forget about it for the moment and keep making excuses, but truth be told it will remain the same especially if the other party is not trying to do their part, therefore we keep getting back in the same situation. This then becomes a continuous cycle of ups and downs, sadness and seemingly happiness. Why put yourself through all of this headache and heartache when you know that you truly deserve to be happy in the right relationship...

Keep in mind that the longer you are with Mr/Mrs wrong the longer you are putting a barrier on the door to letting Mr/Mrs Right in. As long as you remain entangled in the bad/wrong relationship, the longer it will take for you to get in the right one. The sooner you disentangle yourself from that relationship the sooner you can meet the right person and be genuinely happy in your relationship.

So what do you do in the meantime after liberating yourself from bondage and living the single life?

Just work on yourself  to be a better person, love God, love yourself and enjoy life with great expectations. Be strong people! Until next time...

* Please leave your comments/questions about this posting on the main homepage 6/15/2011 . Thanks

EXERCISING (posted on 5/17/2011, check out the home page to make any comments about this post)

We hear talks about exercise exercise exercise… whats the big deal? What are the perks of working out? Why should you even bother?  Well here are some reasons:

* Manages weight

* Improves mood and decreases stress levels

* Fights chronic diseases like hypertension, diabetes, osteoporosis, decreases cholesterol and decreases chances of cancer

* Boosts your energy and strenght

* Improves self esteem

* Promotes better sleep

* Fun for the whole family. Hehe!!!

Speaking of exercising, lately I have gotten several inquiries on how I lost weight or how I have stayed in shape. Hmmmm well let’s just say even though I did not realize what was happening to my body at the time I was on a plan that got me to where I am.

From professional advise from a few trainers the first key to losing weight is to trick/confuse your body by mixing up your exercise and make sure to hydrate regularly. Have I been starving? NO, not really. If you ask those who know me they will tell you that girl Victoria loves her food, haha! And yes I do not mess with my food but I would say that I have definitely tried to cut my consumption of soda to a minimum, try to eat fruits and veggies and make some other subtle changes to my diet. Please please pleeaassseeee do not starve yourself because your body will want to hold onto the little you eat and possibly gain even more weight in the long run and besides it is not healthy because we need our nutrients, so bad bad idea to starve.

Positive attitude and focus will get you there.That’s my little two cents and I hope it helps. Look below at the workout regimen I used. Goodluck peeps!!!

Day 1	Day 2
CARDIO: Treadmill - 20 mins Stepper - 15 mins Toning/Weights:  For abs Torso rotation 50 crunches (10 sets of 5) Seated abdominal Ball crunches	CARDIO: Eliptical - 10 mins Bike - 25 mins Toning/Weights: For legs Hip adductor Hip abduction Glute Laying crunch
Day 3	Day 4
CARDIO: Bike - 15 mins Stepper - 25 mins Toning/Weights: For arms Pulldown Row Tricep press (inner grip) Roman chair (knee raises)	CARDIO: Treadmill - 15 mins Eliptical - 30 mins Toning/Weights:For total body Leg press Shoulder press Ballsquats (3 sets of 12) Hyperextension
·         In addition to the above do 4 sets of 12-14 repititions of light/mild weights (dumbbells) ·         Each work out session took about 60-100 mins ·         Besides the major ab day (day 1), I always included a little ab workout at the end of each toning session because I wanted to focus more on toning my abs.